There are plenty of topics where people are asking this, you should look around, but I'll give you the links since you already made the topic. http://www.stardock.com/products/windowblinds/ That is a program needed to run them. http://www.wincustomize.com/Skins.aspx?LibID=1 There is the skins to use for it.
here are the sites that i always go to for themes. also if it didnt work then i dont know whats wrong. http://skinplant.com/library.cfm?lib=1 http://pixtudio.com/library.php?cat=1 http://www.wincustomize.com/Skins.aspx?LibID=1
you supposed to click Install from Disk near the top rght - the arrow blocking it but its the first one though click that and find the theme you are lookking for and apply
Kaos try this 1- right click on the desktop 2- select properties 3- click on apperance 4- play with the thing under "windows and buttons:" hope this helps