Not Sure What To Do

Ok, its me again.(will) a.k.a dharmesha. remember im the the 14 yr old 8th grader at a private school who has 16 people in his class but only 3 are girls.......

Well in the 3rd week of school i asked out one of the girls her name is rachael...It wasnt totally out of the blue..all of the summer she had been kinda leading me onto her.Calling me,say i love you everytime we said bye..stuff like that,, But when i popped the question she just said "Umm" and walked a away from me.she later assured me that was a NO...Then a couple days later she asked me why i was so unhappy, and i just responded to her shaking my head 'nothing"

Ok well now its the last quarter..I have spent the year writing depressing love poems,i have started listening to a lot of death metal because it kinda eases my pain,i have cried three times about how things arent fair,deciding that my love life is basically a roller coaster that only goes down.

Back to the not fair part...Their is this guy(nick) in my class who always fondles the girls (You know the type of guy im talking about) he can grab their butts, latch onto them from behind,put his arms around them whenever he feels like it, BUT i cant even get a hug from them, and if i do something as minor as play with their hair they complain about how i never leave them alone..

So me and the rest of the guys in the class are SICK of his special privileges so one day we confront him..He goes on about how we betrayed him and were lieng, and everyone tells him a scenario where he molests the girls....Mostly we did this because we were frustrated but the girls have been talking under the table about how their tired of it too..

So about 2 days later he starts it up again. Ava(the other girl) shes showing him negative feedback when he touches her, Rachael on the other hand does absolutely nothing EVEN though she asked us to help her

When i asked her why she lets nick touch her all the time and not anyone else , she could never give an answer,she didnt think she was doing anything wrong...While on the other hand ava is kinda thankful for what we did

You might be thinking by now...why am i raining on this guys parade? Well normally i wouldnt care but he is the one always saying the girls in our class are ugly,boring, and weird...HE DOESNT CARE ABOUT THEM AT ALL. and well i actually do ..but still their arms were open to him and closed to me..by the way this has been going on since late 6th grade

ok so this goes on for a couple of more weeks..then we had a field trip to Washington D.C where we did a treasure hunt and went to the museums..Since we are a small class we slept over at the principles house in DC..guys slept in basement girls upstairs>BUT the girls were downstairs until curfew which was like 11...So the girls were downstairs and were all flirting with them (were teenagers what do you expect)nick doesnt do anythign with them(because we threatened that if he did anything we would all gang up on him and kill him)...Im finally getting some action lol and they liked it...

That friday morning after breakfast the teachers told us to wait outside by the cars before we went to the holocaust museum..I then happened to be standing by ava in front of the car.I put my around her for 7minutes straight (shocking because before the trip she wouldnt let me get withing 5feet of her)

Rachael i think is in love with nick but doesnt want to admit it to herself...So i telll nick to back off of ava and go for rachael cus she likes him(i guess) he agreed to it ..2 days later he was back to his old ways. I wouldnt be soo mad about if ava wasnt telling me on the bus .how when she tells him to stop he never stops..

Ok lets fast forward another week...about 5 students are going on a spanish class trip to costa rica for our spring break..rachael and ava are both going..
Its the last day before they leave so the girls are giving people hugs..Rachael gives me the kind of hug you would give to your cousin (body doesnt actually touch)
But then 100ft down the hall way i hear ava shout "Will!!!wait up" then with a running start she jumps on me and wraps her legs around my waist//I and everyone else in the hallway was amazed..i said "goodbye cant wait until you get back" and then i was speechless.

So on that note i go to spring break ..I start thinking about her a lot.what it would be like to date her,how happy my life would be.bla blah blah...One of my friends became very tired of me always talking about her(i think i love her..i mean seriously) so he said if monday when they get back if she makes a move on me ..i would have to ask her out sometime this week.

So this monday sure enough something happened...she started talking to me a LOT more, she was more comfortable around me..and so on the bus ride home.another kid( a very good friend) who visited costa rica had a camera with some pics of the trip....she really wanted to see them..but their was one problem//Im in the back seat across from him.hes in a one seater and im sitting by another guy..

So how will she look at the pictures? she decides she could just sit in my lap for the 15 minute bus ride and look at them//she said "will im going to sit in your lap" and obviously i didnt believe(i mean i barely recieve affection from any girls) and she actually does it..I was once again without words but i was enjoying it,5minutes later i decide to "push my luck" so i put my arm around her...she didnt flinch a muscle...so i held her close to me....That night i couldnt sleep only thing i could think about is her and i cuddling together....This monday 2 days ago will go down as one of the best days of my middle school life.


i needed to learn more about her. before i take the next step..so i go to the one guy she trusts the most i asked him,,why has she been so nice to me...he thinks she likes me more because when i flirt with her i do it with a emotion and love..but when nick does it only for pleasure and when she rejects it he still wont stop. So im like yay..

And the plan is to ask her out thursday.

ANYWAYS>>this might me because im in love, or just because im so into the moment...but today she didnt talk to me as much as usual..and for me the situation was just awkward... I mean did she found out the plan and to avoid me from asking her out she just pretends like she doesnt have any feelings for me anymore. or did rachael say something to her???

I am soo afraid of her saying no..i have a feeling id just have emotional breakdown,it would ruin the rest of the year, I don;t know how i would handle another rejection considering the other one has haunted me all year

Or am i just jumping to conclusion..Ill see what happens today but
the point i was trying to make with this thread is a question..

If you were in my shoes would you ask her out this thursday??? or should i wait til friday??

I want to do it as soon as possible..im just so eager to have a relationship with ava(assuming she'll say yes)

Ok sorry for the long read.....
Thanks Though,
Dharmesha13 or just will from a small private school in virginia

 

Alright bro.

First things first, you arn't "in love", you just think your in love. Your 14, enjoy not having a girlfriend man. Trust me when I tell you this, all they do is bitch at you (and those are the nice ones).

Truthfully, you stated that you like to touch their hair. Don't do that. It's like snapping their bra, bad move. When they talk to you, encorporate the funniest thing you can think of every couple sentences. If they feel sad, cheer them up. Don't act like an ass, but say something funny.

If your really liking this girl, give her this option:
"Do you wanna do something today as friends orrr..." giving her 2 winks and a smile. She'll think your kidding at first, but then ask her
"I'm serious, wanna do something?". You'll get a responce by the end of the day, if not at that time.

3 girls in a class of 16? Damn now thats sausage fest huh..

Remember to PM me how it goes man

~Whit3 Boi

Edit: Some more add-ons -->

Don't go emo over a girl. Theres loads on this planet, don't trip over one.
My friend's girl cheated on him, he slit his wrists, long story short, he's no longer with us. He was 17, he had his whole life to live.

Don't gang up on a dickhead. Just knock some sence into him, no need to threaten him with "death". This Nick, don't pay attention to him. If you see a girl backing up from him while he's tryin to get some, just walk up to him, get in his face and tell him to back up. If he starts something, just hit him in the face (and for the love of god, don't ever kick another dude in the balls, not manly at all).

If Rachael likes him, let her like the guy thats going to live with his parents until 32.

Finally, Ask her out when you feel the perfect moment is (you'll know it, trust me)

~Whit3 Boi

 

Thanks man..... ill definately let you know how it goes

 

lmao. is all im going to say

 

Do we look like Agony Aunts?

On the other hand..that was hilarious, please write more.

 

yes made me chuckle.lol

 

wow... Just wow.

 

Normally, I wouldn't say anything to any of you, but come on guys. Give the kid a break, he's looking for some advice and he obviously had nowhere else to go for it, otherwise he would have. I hate to say this to you guys since you're all older than 6, but if you have nothing nice to say then shut the hell up. For the betterment of us all, I'm closing this right now. Instead of leaving this open for people to post and bash you for looking for help, I'll prevent it from happening.