What? He said he doesn't like power gaming. FFXI is power gaming to the extreme, with next to no roleplaying. The D&D MMORPG is the best possible choice for you as far I can see. I know someone who was beta testing and he has similar interests to you and he enjoyed it.
wait for the lord of teh rings the shadow of anagmar, or something like that, it's supposed to be a good one, like the best to date, i don't know alot about it though
I would reccomend DownTownMafia This is a role play mafia based games, working from package boy to godfather. This game has graphics involved in it. Each individual player has their own profile used mainly to store pictures (sigs, protection pictures etc.). The admin also sometimes hold huge picture competitions for great prizes. www.downtown-mafia.com
I used to play wow.. its fun garuanteed good game for people that like long and fun games and have time to level to 60.. thats wehn the real fun starts.
www.battleon.com Adventure quest, it is really repetetive and 2D. Some people may like repetetive but i dont.