Help Me With My Life...

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  1. TorchWood

    TorchWood Well-Known Member

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    Hello guys..

    Well I'll get strait to the point.. I need help.. heres the situation, please tell me what I should do / how you would go about it. Please be serious, dont spam or make or flame or rant here. Thank you in advance.

    (Made up names)
    So, I have these two friends, Bob and Joe. Joe tried to hook Bob up with a girl.. All 3 of us, and the girl, (we'll call her Girl) hung out alot. The girl started liking me. She started wanting hanging out with me. So.. we hung out alone alot, talked alot.. etc. Now Bob and Joe are very pissed at me, because I "took his girl".. or something. Well, heres the thing. 1) We aren't going out.. 2) She NEVER liked him.. at all.. ever.. nothing even close.. never will.. Though, they are fully believed that theres something going on, and want me to "confess". When I tell them the truth, they dont believe me. I believe they still want to be friends, but they want the truth out of me, and I have given it, but they do NOT believe it whatsoever.. So, I agreed, for them, to never call, or hang out with the girl again. Still, they are mad at what they think "happend". They think we kissed.

    Someone want to help? I may even be pissed enough with my 7,000 credits..

    Help please.
     
  2. Sulla

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    well firstly, how do you feel about "girl"? do you like her back?
    cuz if you do, then i'd go to ur friends, tell them the truth again. tell them the situation, she never liked him, never will, likes you, you talk, hang out, like friends. and if you like her back, you can jsut say somethin to the effect of "but i've come to like her back, so step off"
    if you guys are true friends, something as trivial as this shouldnt split you up, remind them of that.
     
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    Okay, I got stuck in this situation, twice.

    Anyway, Hang out with the girl. And if your friends are REAL FRIENDS then they will believe you, as for me.. my friends noticed I didn't care.. and now we are all cool, so if I were you. I would just hang out with the girl, tell your (ex?) friends, that if you were real friends you wouldn't care. AND WOULD BELIEVE ME!
     
  4. Viral Maze

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    If your friends are true, they'll stick around if you tell them the truth. Tell "Bob" the chick doesnt want to be with him. Better yet, have the girl tell him that. As for you, hang out more with the chick, make sure "Bob" is cool with it, and dont start getting serious with her if he isnt, cuz some people can really hold a grudge.
     
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    Okay, this sounds like a bad episode of Dawson's Creek but i'll help. I've never been in this position but this should be clear. If these friends of yours have been your friends for a long time, stick with it bro until they forgive and forget the whole situation. If you've only known them for a short time, just leave them be if they're going to be idiots.
     
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    I'm still trying to figure out why you made up names on here. Maybe their real names are Joe and Bob!

    Anyways I don't have an opinion cause it sounds like teenybopper drama too me. I might as well watch the OC.
     
  7. -RawR-

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    Ok this has happened to me numerous times. Just stop with the girl. There are other one's. Unless this girl is Jessica Simpson you don't need her. Remember...Bro's before hoes.
     
  8. Solid Snake

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    well i never been in any relationship but
    hey its her choice who she wants to be with
     
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    If you told them the truth and they still don't believe you, ditch them. Its not point hanging out with people who don't trust you.
     
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    u need to tell the girl that she is very nice but tell her that she needs to explain to bob or joe(forgot who)that she dosent lik them but she lik you but tell her to explain to them that nothing is going on between u to that u have no idead of going out with her but only being friends....also dont say u will give out creds only if u mean it
     
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    well i get the jist of wut ur sayin. i would take aside the girl and ask her who she likes. then i would take aside bob and tell him wut girl says. even if bob and joe hate u for such a stupid reason then they dont deserve to be your friends.
     
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    I for one have been there. I like a girl since 5th grade (i'm not in 10th). Just recently my friend started liking her. He asked her out and she told him she didn't like him. The fact of the matter was that he still liked her. Me and her started hanging out more and more. Often we would go to the park at her house or just watch movies. Two months after my friend told her how he felt, I thought it was enough time. So I asked her out and she said yes. I asked her this past Sunday. My friend is perfectly fine with it. Just give it time. Once he knows that nothing will happen between them he will move on and you can move in.

    It took my friend two months.

    Time is the key.
     
  13. IonMirage

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    if you dont like her then dont hang out with her
     
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    IMO bros before hoes.

    However, if your friends cant continue to be your friends after youve found some happiness then they arent your friends so that leaves only the hoes in the equation lol.

    If you think they are truly your friends, they will be there longer than her, tho it is possible they accept you like eachother (like real friends SHOULD do). Its really up to you, do you think you and the girl could last as friends for a longer period of time than the 2 guys? Or do you think the 2 guys will be there longer than the girl? I would personally go for whichever one seems more worthwhile.

    If they think your kissing her and your getting bashed for it, why not be doing it?

    Whenever I got in trouble for picking on freshmen even tho I wasnt initially i ended up doing it. If im getting punished for something im not doing, i mine as well be doing it after all.
     
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    A few months ago I started really liking a girl that I had been on a few climbing trips with, and climbed with alot, telling my mates etc, a couple of weeks later my roommate started flirting with her, seriously which really did piss me off, as she was flirting with him as well.

    It wasn't just the flirting that pissed me off it was the fact that he had a girlfriend at the time who he cheated on alot, as she lived at home and him at uni. Though he went back twice a week for sex, (should he be short one week at uni)...

    The main reason I was pissed off because I thought it was another one of those things, just another shag, I made him choose between his girlfriend and this new girl, he choose this new girl...he finally broke up with his girlfriend.

    After talking to various people about it during the time I finally learn't stuff, if you have no chance with a girl and a mate really does then its fine, you are never going to get anywhere, at least he can, after breaking up with his girlfriend I forgave him, after being seriously depressed for a few days, not speaking etc.

    I did however promise should he cheat on this girl (as well a guy in our house who is on her course (doesn't "fancy her btw")) that I would do him over, he hasn't cheated since, however he has broken up with her (and got a much hotter girl).

    If you actually like her explain to your mates, its hard been in the situation before, I feel jelousy alot when its against a mate...however remember that mates are forever...your going to have to ask her if u have a chance, if you do and want to risk a friendship jump at it, your friends should understand, if she doesn't tell your friends, get her to tell your friends, but jelousy is a harsh feeling, I hate it.

    :P Daz
     

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