Getting Over Someone..

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  1. Wynter

    Wynter Senior Member

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    Yeah, I've been having some issues with an ex.. Still feel pretty strongly for her, and I am sick of feeling like this. I need advice on what I can do to move on and stop feeling like this.
    I've heard that the best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.. Any thoughts? Any other ideas on what to do?
    Just so you guys know, I'm not looking for revenge or anything here.. I'm just looking for a way to stop having feelings for her..
     
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    You can't stop having feelings for her. My first love and I dated over 4 years ago and I still feel as strongly for her now as I did then, despite how much shes changed for the worst.

    The best thing to do is truly just to move on, don't forget, just acknowledge it won't work, accept that and find someone else to take your mind off the pain, even if its not a relationship and just sort of a fling. Go out with friends more often, etc.
     
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    I'm not going to get in much, but I've been there. Ask your friends for some advice, mine gave me some straight forward answers. look below


    #1 the reason you think about her is because you want to, be a man and learn to let go. Rather than ----ting yourself in a hole, gtfo of it.
    #2 recommended to do things you like to get your mind off of her. hobbies etc.
    #3 seriously, continue to sulk and hope one day that she might come back. Or take control of your head and learn to pursue other women.


    It's all in your head, stop hanging on to those feelings if you really SAY you want to let go. I didn't understand that at one point, when I finally did I was free of my emotions that I held on to, and it f'ing feels great.. you can feel that way also
     
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    1. strip club
    2. hookers
    3. who broke up with who?
    if she broke up with you then she wants to move on if you broke up with her and you feel like this then you have a chance
     
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    Agreed.
    There's really a lot of truth in that statement.

    Also, you know what they say: misery loves company. Really though, go out with friends, have a good time, and do things that'll make you laugh.

    As far as I'm concerned, there's no way to "think" or "reason" yourself out of this. You can think about her time after time; you can think until your memories themselves seem worn out, but it really won't help your situation... At least not in my experience. Good luck though. I get where you're coming from.
     
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    Don't just go and hook up with a girl that is looking for a serious relationship, please. That would be really mean to her and if she began to like you, like seriously, then it would be really bad because if you are just dating her because of how you still feel for your ex, and you then broke up with her, that would suck. Just go to a nightclub or bar, pick up some trash, and do the deed :P
     
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    If your young get out and run a muck ;) best advise i can give you...
     
  8. Greasy Pete

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    find a hobby
     
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    just think of Dem

    otherwise just go out and do something
     
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    been there too
    just go out to a club and even if you dont have feelings for a girl kiss her just to try and forget the other girl
    best thing to do is just try not to think about her at all delete everything about her (photos, msn, phone number) so it eliminates meeting her again and the feelings coming back
    worked for me
     
  11. ShneakySquirrel

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    PW'd.
     
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    Drink until you pass out. Then you wont remember her.
     
  13. Birel06

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    I had this problem also. I can't stand her now...Make her act like a complete b***h to you, and you will eventually get fed up with her.
    That's what I did. Worked for me anyway..
     
  14. Been there myself actually, and all it takes is friends. My friends talked me into so many different things (none to do with girls though...) and I really just got a hold on life. Yes, I love my ex, and I always will, but I was taught to separate my life accordingly, and regardless of how I feel about my ex, I can honestly say that it doesn't get to me anymore.

    What I'm trying to explain to you is that being in love with your ex and not having an opportunity to get her back isn't entirely bad. Learn to love others, and your ex will become just a happy thought to look upon. You don't have to listen to anyone here and go have meaningless sex or find another relationship; All you need to do is grow out of the phase you're in, and that doesn't mean you have to stop loving your ex.

    One thing I recommend is staying friends with your ex, connect with them and work around relationships instead of trying to get into one. Regardless of your thoughts, tell her you would rather be close friends that share a special bond. Go do something with her, and never let that love go, because you're only going to turn out like the majority of men if you let your heart being broken control your life.
     
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    Hang yourself GMV
     

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