Did I Do The Right Thing?

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  1. Sly.

    Sly. Well-Known Member

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    Ok so last night I went to a party. As it was finishing, two of my mates and I went outside. We heard a girl screaming, and through some trees we heard what sounded like slapping or punching. We ran round to get a closer look and saw a guy and girl struggling. The girl was screaming. We carefully approached as the guy was pretty angry and alot stronger and older. We are 14, he was 20, big build. Then another guy rans towards them. He is 18, quite small and has known the girl since he was in primary school. He ran over to talk to the guy when the guy lashed out and started beating up the kid, who was only trying to help. They were rolling around in the street, 20 year old guy was smashing the other guy up real bad. The girl just screamed, and I didn't know who's side she was on. At first, I could simply not move, i was shocked. The guy got away from the other guy and walked back with me and my friends, we talked to him. He was really nice, explained the kind of situation, his teeth were coming out and stuff from the fight. The girl followed the guy that she had previously struggled with, who we found out was her boyfriend. We heard more screaming so we all ran back. The guy went for him again. I said to my mates 'Come on, we've got to help him.' So I ran over as they were on the street holding each other. I didn't know what to do, so I just kicked the big guy in the face. He got up and screamed at me 'Come on, you want some?!' I was scared as ----. The girl grabbed me screaming, I couldn't make out what she said. I soon realised she wanted me to get help. I ran back and my mates stayed there. They told the guy to run, which he did, he had to curl up in a ball as the other guy was going mental at him. I ran back to the party, I got help from some guys, coincendatally the people the girl wanted. My friends and the good kid had come back in the meantime, the good guy's face had been smashed into the curb real bad. The girl appeared and ran into the guys hands and said 'Don't let go of me'. The 20 year old bad guy came over to me and said 'Tell me where he is! I'm not mad at you. Where is he?' I said I didn't know, though I did. I didn't want to see the good kid get beaten up again.

    Thinking back, maybe I should of really hit the guy in the face as he was in a slightly vulnerable position to me...but he might have gone mad. I'm only 14, he was 20. Plus, why didn't my mates back me up! I was really pissed off. The other thing that made it awkward was that the girl confused me really bad. I didn't know who's side she was on.

    I hope I explained this well, please ask questions if needed.

    -Dark Horse
     
  2. KimKiyaa

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    I think you did the right thing... unfortunately it's the good samaritans who always end up getting hurt the most... only ever step in if you feel you can control the outcome :)
     
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    I think u did the right thing, u shouldnt take action until u understand the situation is since u made it quite clear how big the guy is and how young you are i doubt u could have taken him, your friends on the other hand are a bunch of wusses....The girl was also confused,but u could have gotten help from older people much faster to stop the fight.... well thats what i think anyway :P
     
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    I think you did do tha right thing but maybe you need some friends that got your back?
     
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    Well they're good friends...but ------s (these particular ones) my good friend is massive, strong, and he had just left. Real shame. My other friend that was with me was big, if we had thrown a couple of punches at the guys head while he was on the floor, maybe we could have taken him. But I just wish my other friend was with me, he always got my back, like I got his.

    @DonEmu - man you just summed that up. Cheers bro.
     
  6. kirbir

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    When a girl is in a violent relationship she cant think for herself, she ends up doing whatever the guy wants her to do, she doesnt think for herself, its a pretty bad situation to be in, which is why she probably confused you.

    When you have been in a violent relationship for some time, you start to feel that you cant get out, the partner makes you feel as if he is the only thing important in your life, makes you feel like you dont deserve anyone else, you cant think for yourself, makes you hate yourself, you eventually stop going out because he wants all your time, you lose contact with friends, you feel lonely..worst of all, you lose your family (contact)...i could carry on but i wont.

    You did the right thing, but you should have also phoned the police, she may not have liked that but that would be another step for her if he beats her all the time. She needs to get out of the situation.

    As for your friends, i dunno..maybe they just didnt want to get involved, but if you was in serious trouble im sure they would have helped you :)
     
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    [.BC.] bsk84091 Well-Known Member

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    yea you did the right thing
     
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    Ofcourse you did the right thing man, who knows what that moron would do if you guys weren't there
     
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    I think you did the right thing. It's a good thing you didn't punch him because violence is never the answer my young friend.
     
  10. Sly.

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    Thanks kirbir, you sound like you're telling that from experience. You have mates with the same problem?

    I was going to ring the police, I asked my friends and they said no, so I didn't.

    -Dark Horse
     
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    a 20 year old fought a 14 year old and the 20 year old slapped the girl?
     
  12. Sly.

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    Thanks to other guys after Kirbir, didn't see those posts as I was replying.

    - Dark Horse

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    You've got the whole wrong story lol :P
     
  13. kirbir

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    Yes from experience, not myself but friends and my younger sister went through it, we helped her out and now she is with a great guy.

    It will be hard for her but if she has friends and family that are determind to help her in every way, she will be able to get out of the situation also....she is too young to let some twat take over her life.

    As for you asking your friends if you should phone the police...dont listen to what they say, follow your gut and do what you feel is right ;)
     
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    you did the right think man, thats a ----ed up story though
     
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    Well I was never going to get involved with the relationship, that's their problem. I didn't know these people. And I'm not sure ringing the police would have gone down well. There were lots of adults nearby. Thanks for comment though. <3

    -Dark Horse

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    Rgr that bro, cheers.
     

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