Alright so let me start from last month. There is this girl, her name is Genny. We start being friends and stuff and well she tells me she likes me. Later that same day her friend says, "Genny really likes you, When she was kissing her boyfriend she thought she was kissing you." I said, "Wow, pffft. That's a lie" She said, "No really. If she broke up with her boyfriend would you go out with her?" I said, "Yeah She is awesome. " So Genny broke up with her boyfriend but I was going to wait for the weekend to be over before asking her out. The next day we hang out, she hangs on me and everything. She tells me she really likes me. And a lot of stuff. We find out some personal info, which really makes me like her more. The next day she says, I'm sorry but I just want to be friends. I am like okay? But inside I am like WTF. She said, "I really like you, a lot, but I am just not over my last boyfriend" I said its alright, I am not pressuring you into anything. She said, "Thank you " So in a couple weeks she does it again, breaks up with her boyfriend. Tells me she likes me and wants to go out with me. So again I am going to wait a couple days so we just don't jump into a relationship. Well guess what, she goes back to that boy. I said, look I am not mad but please quit doing this. And she said, "Look I really like you, but I am just not over "Clayton" yet. " I said, "Alright, but just quit" Well finally the boy breaks up with her. We don't jump off real quick, but then later on we are talking about going out and stuff and yeah we plan on to. The day I am going to go ask her out I see her with Clayton again. I go up and they walk away. So I sit down. Her best friend ""Zach"" , who is also a good friend of mine and also has a crush on Genny, said, "Dude I am getting freaking pissed off at clayton, he is not good for her. I would rather see her go out with you atleast, just because you will treat her right." I said, "Yeah I know" So Genny comes back. She tries to ignore us but then zach chased her to our table and I sat down beside her and said, "Look you have been telling me you like me and then you change your mind and go back to Clayton. I am not going to get mad or jealous or anything just tell me who you like" and she said, "I dont' know" (((((Side not I have given her a lot of time to chose))))) I said, "What if you had to chose me or him right now?" and she said, "I don't know" So I walk away to think. Then I come back and sit down beside her and calmly say, "I told you I would always be here for you when you need help, I told you if you needed help in chosing something I would be here for you. Right now it looks like you need help chosing so let me chose for you, You can have Clayton, I'm out and done I'm tired of playing games." And then I left. Later zach gets a text message saying, "Zach (me) is an ------... I don't want to see him or talk to him anymore, I don't like him at all now" So yeah, I try to sit and talk to her. I even asked her if she can look me in the eyes and tell me what I did is wrong then I will apologize but she just would walk off. This ignoring me happened for a couple weeks sooooooooooooooooooo. I am legal and she isn't so she was going to turn me in for sexual harassment but decided not to or something I'm still a bit confused on this... Later she says, "I am sorry, I want to be friends. I want to be there for you." Well I have just been going through stuff, my dad's recent death (3 weeks ago) and my mom is back in the hospitable taking radiation for cancer. So yeah we stay friend again for a bit. I text her one day and say, I am going to talk to the air force today. And she says, why? I said, "I might go into the air force" she said, "Why " I said, " They pay for my college and there is nothing here for me" She said, "What about me?" I said, "??? You're a good friend and all but," She said, "Zach, I care for you. More than you will ever know. I like you zach" So yeah guess what we went through the whole thing again. Except she got mad at me for something stupid this time =\ I forget. Anyways we are friends again... (I know I am a dumbass for giving her this many chances but the bible says forgive 70 times 7 ) Well, I take her out to eat Sunday just as friends *the last sunday* and we have fun. Then we hang out at the mall. I get home and she texts me.... She says she likes 2 people. And I am like chose whoever you feel is best. Then she says I am one of them. I say, I can't chose sorry. But then she says I want to give it a try. So I actually give in again. Well yesterday at school I got drunk just a bit, and we were playing hacky sack and she kept missing the sack, So me being drunk I say, (please excuse language but I have to use it to show the tone) "God damnit Genny, quit missing the ****ing ball or I will kick your ****ing ass!" And she left upset. I didn't care at the time. Well when I got home she wouldn't talk to me, but I couldn't blame her. So today at school, I wrote her an apology note with a gift inside of it. My moms, necklace. And she was like I can't take this, but I said, you can. I like you a lot. and I trust you. I'm sorry. and we were cool. After first period people were running to get me and said, "Genny is drunk go help her" I was like oh ****, and ran over and found out that she really was drunk. I said, "Genny who did this to you?!?!?!? I will go kick there ass!" She said, "I am fine! Hi!!! Whats up!!!" and was dancing in the window. Roxanne (a friend) said, "You got to get her to homeroom" I said, "I know where it is, I will take her" and so I guided the drunk Genny back. So I took her to her homeroom and said I will brb. I ran to my homereoom and checked in, I came back to her homeroom and told the teacher I needed Genny Hogan, she asked, what for, I said I need to take her to the office. And she kept asking why so I said, Look, Genny is drunk I need to get her out of here and call her mom to take her home so she doesn't get expelled. And I don't want anyone to know about this, so she said okay and Genny went with me, Genny kept jerking away and saying I am fine leave me alone, and falling everywhere. Then she said I got to piss, so I took her to the bathroom and waited. She come back out and said, Look in my eyes, I am fine. Trust me zach. I said, I smell alcohol on you, who give it to you and why did you drink it. Was it because of me? And she said, yeah. I said why? She said, you drank yesterday. I said, yes, but doesn't give you the right to do that. She said, I just need a break. and htis is my break. I said, no Genny stop. I want to call your mom and have her pick you up. Genny said, did you tell my teacher I was drunk I said, Yeah but she won't say anything. She started crying and said, she knows my dad and he will send me to an all girls school. I said, she won't say anything but she insisted that I take her to her teacher so I did. Then we went to the councelers and she talked to ms jackfort and I waited. then we talked. I said, I cared for you genny or I would have not tried to help you, I don't want you hurt. I trust you, I said I want to be friends. that is it. just friends, and I gave her my mom's necklace and she said thanks for trusting me, and we were cool. She took me to class and give me a hug, then, well now she won't talk to me or anything. Sooooooooo what do I do?!?!?!?!?!?!
IMO you should just forget about a romantic relationship with her for now. She doesn't seem all that mature yet and seems indecisive about what she wants. And you aren't that much better off, with everything you must be dealing with right now I doubt you're making very rational choices all the time. Just be her friend and take care of her, try to help her grow up and mature enough to be able to make decisions that won't hurt her. And if I were you I'd have waited a bit before giving her such a priceless necklace.
Yeah well. Here was my last text message for her: "So yeah, I went to the church and spent over an hour praying for you. Then went to talk to someone about what I should do, he said it seems that I am trying to do the right thing and that you rather have friends who are there for you if you are right or wrong rather than a friend being there when your right and help you when you are wrong. So this is bye. I'm sorry, yes I want my moms necklace back, you are the first person to lose my trust. Which is pretty sad. Edit: Thanks to everyone reading this: It helps to get advice instead of giving it all the time.
This doesn't make sens If she broke up with her boyfriend because of you at some point, what make you think that if you go out with her that she won't due it to you? Also, she seems really immature and not ready for a real boyfriend. She seems like the type of person who you would have sex with and since your legal and she isn't would tell her parents about and get you charged for something.
-__-' when she says she doesn't know what she wants, take her at her word, tell her you'll contact her in five years after she grows up.
hey there i kiss my gf/bf and i think i like you instead ! no wait i dont like you lets be friends ok? sounds trippppppy mannnnnn
First of all, I hate reading stories and books and most importantly long ass posts. I only did this for you and also because I am writing and essay on Soul mates for English that is due tomorrow...lol. try to be short and precise next time. Secondly, I know the situation that you are in. I am in the same situation but haven't talked to the girl in almost two years, though I do have hope that someday we will bump into each other .. some day.. Anyhow, try your best to forget her and move on. I am trying my best but just that she isn't getting out of my head. Most of the time I would cry when I go to sleep or cry when I am lonely at home or well home mostly, and it gets really really annoying at times just thinking about her. Try to move on bud. Don't spent too much time with a girl, since this is only a few weeks for you, I wouldn't like you to turn out all dark and deep like me because HONESTLY it SUCKS to be ME. I've had this sort of problem for the past 2 years with same girl and I just cant tell her to get the f out of my head. .. On the other hand, I hope that you get out of this situation really fast, because you would not like to have a life love story like this quote: Fourth Quote #4 on this page http://boardofwisdom.com/Default.asp?topic...p;listname=Love Move on bud...I'm trying and will hopefully accomplish it some day. You're young and this is how life is when you're young. It gets to you as you develop more from within, if you don't move on right now. PS: I am sorry about the death of your Dad. I know how it feels. I lost my Grandmother and Grandfather (ACTUAL PARENTS TO ME AT LEAST AS THEY RAISED ME NOT MY REAL PARENTS). It's hard. Zain. For a second there I thought he made the whole dang thing up. But then I thought of myself and I realized that this sort of thing actually happens. Zain.
Probably the best advice you will get, not only has he experienced something like this but he also genuinely took time out of his work to help you out. Most people wouldn't even bother. @Zain, completely off topic, but love the quotes in your signature.
Hehe...BabyLeo...I just said what came to my mind first and the best thing to ever talk about is the personal life experience. I try too hard then again I do get better results every time. Quotes are something that I kind of like writing myself and finding online. The two are actually by Issac Newton and some other famous person from 18th Century. Zain.
You are in the friends zone of an immature twat. Don't go there. Seriously. It is well within your best interest to avoid a romantic relationsihp (and probably friendship at this point) with her because from what I can tell, it will just be a constant reminder and a roller coaster. I won't give you a heart filled response about how you and I have been in the same spot, because every single actively dating male will have been in this situation at least once by the age of 21, and the death of family members and loss of friends has never been something that has bothered me.
First off, can you retype that neatly and with proper punctuation. That way I can understand who is saying what and then give my comment. Not trying to sound harsh.
