Why would not having sex with someone be considered "dumb?" Having sex with someone isn't the be all to end all you know?
not having sex is like not breathing, or eating. its natural, is what i mean in my view being celibate is embracing modern ideas that aren't really natural, in terms of human history.
There is a big thing that separates us from the animal world. The ability to control our urges and go against our primal urges. It is good to have self control. If more people practiced self control then we would have less wars, ------s/illegitimate children and STDs in the world.
Do what you (and her - important) think is right. In all honesty, it's pretty much up to her; barring some unpleasant things, you're not going there without her consent. You wanna be celibate? Go for it. Some people will respect that, others will not. Myself, I chose not to. No regrets so far, no kids, and no STDs as far as I know. Was I "in love" at the time I lost it? Hell, I really cared for the girl. Not so much anymore; in all honesty, the "I love you so much" feeling that you get won't last. You'll both move on eventually, unless this is one of those fairy tale high school-to-marriage deals. However, in asking this online (and really, at GR...):
That's some Sigmund Freud stuff right there. I'm not going to post my personal situation, but I will say that I, on my own, don't see anything wrong with it. HOWEVER: if you think it's fine, but you're with someone who doesn't, you should respect their views. It would be selfish of you to ask for it, but it's not selfish of them to ask for...not it haha. you could say their views are the limiting factor.
Same here, Watts. I also agree with the other posts quoted. If you are ready for sex, however, go for it. Sex many be look upon a just something to do to feel good between people, or even on one-side, but it has the potential to be much more than just that. Personally, I say, if you feel strongly enough about her to stop your celibacy, then you really should. On the other hand, you can do other things to get her her 'sex fix' without actually having sex. In the end, it's entirely up to you mate. There's ---'s and con's to having sex and not having sex. If you're not a horn-dog now, sex with a girl that is pressuring you into it could cause you to become one [personal experience on my part]. Not that she IS pressuring you into it, but you know..
Don't fuck her. I don't want little xlinks running around building computers and fapping to *chan macros.
simple: She's a wh0re. If you certainly feel this way, it's a better idea not to stick it in. Once you taste the candy most of the time, you will come back for MORE.
I got 68% off wikipedia. and aprently most people don't know they have it as it's largely asymptomatic
I wasn't referring to cold sores, as you were, notice 40 million does not equal 70% of over 300 million =P. How the virus is contracted is a topic for discussion, but its considered an STD regardless. [/b][/quote] I got 68% off wikipedia. and aprently most people don't know they have it as it's largely asymptomatic [/b][/quote] Yes, outbreaks are not a common side effect, thus there is no ability to know you have it in advance. Most people contract it, spread it around via unsafe sex, and then find out later during an outbreak or during a test for common STDs, etc. Also, I used the Health Association's website to pull facts from in the above =P (forgot the URL, it was an off branch of the American Health Association). Either way, thats not a subject of the talk, the talk is about celibacy, I only stated what I did regarding STDs because of the posts of everyone being afraid of contracting them, when statistically they will most likely contract them in the end.
Bull----. Human's give in to their primal urges non stop, every game, every film made shows us that. Most books, anything with violence in is at least a hint at what humans really are at hart, barbaric beings. Sex falls under that, it's a NORMAL urge that people need to stop being so worried about, I'm not agreeing with sleeping with everybody you can get your hands on, but a girl you care about (And no, you don't have to "Love" her) and it'll be worth it. The vast vast vast vast vast vast majority of couples that say, lose their virginity together, at any age are not likely at all to stay together ; it's how the world works, couples break up, why wait for the ONE girl you'll spend your life with to do something that comes natural to our race? When you could be waiting till 45 or so to find that one girl. Illegitimate Children/STD's aren't sex's fault! People act irresponsibly, but it doesn't mean sex with someone you don't love is to blame, constant one night stands with no protection are. You need to find the space between celibate and someone who sleeps around with everyone, but don't stop altogether. It's not natural.
Rubbish. It's just as natural to engage in such activities as it is for you not to. Now sure, it's human nature to engage in such acts but that doesn't mean it needs to be a frequent thing.
