Okay.. So on Monday I met up the mall to see this guy.. Now this guy is already like falling for me, tell me how nice I am, how cute and blah blah lol.. So when I actually met him in person, it was all like "what have I just done!!!??" There is like zero attraction.. He has a very odd bone structure, and he seems to be promiscuous as well. As seen by a picture on an adult dating site I seen him on.. I think that's also how he got scabies in the past too.. omg lol I'm such a bitch But anyhow, the question is.. Why do I attract all of these guys who don't necessarily look all that good? Should I stop viewing a person by their outer appearance? Should I just stick to having standards for myself? So tell me what you think, if I'm a bitch then okay say so and explain why.
Pictures before meeting, or web cam. Or... you know... find someone in the real world, that works too.
That's the thing, I seen his pictures, plenty of them.. Yet in person he looks like he's handicap or something And it's so hard to find guys in the real world, I don't know who's gay..
See I'm so picky lol.. Clubs are made of mostly guys who want a one-night stand which I'm not into.. But I will definitely go to a club or two just to see what it's like.. Maybe there are decent guys there..
Clubs are horrible places to hook up for relationships, straight, gay, bi, or any other form of sexual orientation lol Find people within a group of friends, or find people on craigslist (hey, it works sometimes). Most people your age are only interested in sex though, especially if they are bisexual or homosexual.
That depends. If you judge a personality on appearances you should stop. Although sometimes it reigns true. However, you can't just expect to eventually feel physically attracted to someone. If you're not attracted, it's not happening.
Yes and Yes. I would go into this long ass story of how I met and married my soul mate and all that yada yada, but Im sure you dont want to hear that! IMHO Being open to all takers and giving and living up to your own personal standards and morals(? does anyone actually live by these anymore?) will get you far better results. In other words, dont go into each "date" with high exspectations or assumtions(sp). Work at being easy going, try friends first, if there is a chemistry there, it will come thru on its own., if not, you at least have made a friend, right? Work at the win win situation and you will go to bed feeling alot better., knowing you accomplished something at least. And dont go worrying about what others think of you, you will be better off in the end for it., self confidence is something I have never known in my entire life, but, I still work at it. chin up my friend, and good luck!
You should find people in real situation. Might seem wierd, but one of the best places to hook up with someone is a school. Or perhaps at hobby-like activities. Just places where you can meet people daily or at least a couple of times in the week and sort of get to know them. Watch their actions and look at their behaviour and stuff. Clubs aren't really a thing of interest I think, unless you're into that of course. But you like you said yourself, most guys are there to get laid. +, you can hardly make a conversation when the music is booming like that. So yeah, go out with friends, like to movies, just hanging around town and stuff. Meet new people. Hook up with friends of friends. Meeting people on the internet can be quite deceiving at times, as I'm sure you will have experienced with Mr. scabies xD
Yes and Yes. I would go into this long ass story of how I met and married my soul mate and all that yada yada, but Im sure you dont want to hear that! IMHO Being open to all takers and giving and living up to your own personal standards and morals(? does anyone actually live by these anymore?) will get you far better results. In other words, dont go into each "date" with high exspectations or assumtions(sp). Work at being easy going, try friends first, if there is a chemistry there, it will come thru on its own., if not, you at least have made a friend, right? Work at the win win situation and you will go to bed feeling alot better., knowing you accomplished something at least. And dont go worrying about what others think of you, you will be better off in the end for it., self confidence is something I have never known in my entire life, but, I still work at it. chin up my friend, and good luck! [/b][/quote] I would love to hear your story! ^_^ I think that's what I've been doing wrong in all of my past dates/relations with others.. Having too high of expectations and not starting off on a friend level. I do admit I'm not the most out there person, meaning I haven't dated that many people in my lifetime, so I guess when I finally get a date I either go a little too fast or I just expect some type of amazing thing to take place on the date lol. But I'm really trying to learn from my mistakes and just start out as friends. Plus I could use more friends. Just got out a relationship with a bipolar person so don't think I'm looking forward to one anytime soon. Thanks a lot
xD I dumped him like 3 weeks ago.. Went better than I expected, didn't want to be the cause of someone's suicide -_-
So because I have standards I'm like a 15 year old guy? Okay cool. Oh because he had the link of it on his Myspace so I checked it out and I was blinded by a nude pic of him.. Hey I didn't even have to sleep with him to see it :lol:
