Ok, so in short - a close friend of mine is in a state of depression, after finding out that his grandfather (who he was extremely close with) has passed away about half an hour ago. He knew that it was going to happen someday, because of his numerous medical problems, but he's in a state of shock right now. This guy is the most emotionally stable person that I have known throughout my life, and right now I'm really worried cause of the course he's going through. So I just wanted to ask if any of you have gone through the same thing and possibly know a work around for it? How would you comfort someone in this position?
Just be there more than you've been there for them before. Other than that there isn't anything you can do.
Something that makes people less sad and more relaxed. Its called *cough* drugs *cough* either that or get him a hooker OR Anti depression tablets.
Sorry to hear that hun, i hope your friend is ok. Best to just keep talking to him, get him out of the house so he isn't sat there and able to think about it all the time. Try to keep him busy, try and make him laugh, things like that basically. Theres nothing worse than losing someone you loved and was very close to you and your just sat in your house thinking about it all the time. Ask him to talk about his grandad, about the good times they had together and make sure he REMEMBERS the good times and not the bad times. Just be there for him as he will need his friends the most at this time, thats all you can really do.
Arh thats pretty bad. Well i know how he's feeling, i lost my girlfriend last year.... He could feel so down that the more people try to comfort him the more itl hurt or he wont listen. I found it good when my mates just told me 'mate, im sorry, if you ever need me you know my number'....and they text me every day to check, even nipped by my house. They also took me out a few times, like we all went for a meal, take my mind of the pain...took some encouraging to go but i did and it helped. Only thing thatl help him is doing things thatl take his mind of it. You cant heal the lad, hel be so down, just be a mate and make sure you let him know your there ANY time. my advice.
I lost my father at a young age and I absolutely hated talking about it. You could talk but I wouldn't listen lol. Sometime the only way to fix things is by time, thats how it was for me and it may be the same for your friend.
umm. well i had a friend (who was not emotionally stable haha) who went through the same thing. her grandpa came home on hospice and they basically said "he has a week". my best advice is to show that you understand what he's going through (without specifically saying it) and make him laugh.