Girls - Crushes, Problems, Nervousness, Etc.

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  1. .Zeldafan

    .Zeldafan Well-Known Member

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    Apparently, he didn't.
     
  2. JordanGen

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    Nope... why not ask a question that can be answered completely anonymously and that many others can give insight into? Anyway, that's what a forum is for right? Discussing various things and whatnot. I'm sure there are sadder questions that are asked on different forums, such as "how can i make my peenor grow bigger" or "my 10 year old son is out of control. why am I so irresponsible?"


    Anyway, I was walking home from sixth period (same one that she has), and she sort of asked a question about one of her classes, and we started a light conversation. We conversed for like half an hour, just sitting on a wall outside my neighborhood. So, it's slowly getting there.

    Oh, and also I already mentioned this previously, my intention was never to go up to her randomly and ask her out , loll
     
  3. spartan117

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    Well, if you're graduating soon, you've got to make a move. Sure building up a relationship slowly is great and all, but if you're just talking, you're going to end up in the friend zone, and even if you dont, nothing will happen anytime soon. just ask her if she wants to go get coffee or lunch or something with you. its not as formal as dinner and a movie or anything but it gives you a chance to talk without too much pressure or anything.

    or you can do like me and forget that one girl and get a different date each week :D

    every time i just choose one girl something happens so that nothing happens so i decided why settle for one :D
     
  4. JordanGen

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    Well I'm only in 11th and she's in 10th, so I still have plenty of time if I'm still interested in her. And anyway, I was afraid of rushing things and making myself look like an idiot... So I've been a little cautious about it -_-
     
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    i would say basically get to know her, say hi ask how she is doing and so fourth....ask her what she likes, if she watches or shares same interests as you, dont glance at her chest and what not. Dont get into the friends zone, man that happend to me and i couldnt get out of it, it pissed me off actually. She asked some guy out right on front of me...i punched the kid in the face lol when i caught them making out and there goes our friend ship and you do not want that...dont make mistakes like i made...

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    Or get a coin, pull her to the side and be like "ill flip this coin, heads at my place...tails at yours..." lmao

    good luck,
    cheers
     
  6. diverseartist

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    goto askmen.com


    and

    idk whos more screwed.
    you guys decide

    so ok i started workin at this job like a year ago. and its a fun job and all. ok to get to teh point. so one day i was working and this girl out of no where asks me like what time i leave so i tell her...than later on couple days we start talking and i get her name and all. so then we become friends and i start to like her. then we start to hang out everytime we work during break. i KINDA followed her but i always made sure she was alright with it and we always ended up talkin about stuff and it wasnt boring. we always talk when were not busy and stuff. like 1 month before all this stuff she just broke up with her boyfriend of like 2 years. so then this keeps going on for like 2 months (ive already got her number like after 1 wk btw). so then she finds another boyfriend (not me). now this kid is a complete d-bag and guess what were still just friends and then she breaks up with him like after 1 month (well he dumped her cuz he said he wanted to be single for college PWND.). at the same time she gives me all these clues how she thinks im hott and flirts with me a lottt. so then now shes single again. now she talks about how she just wants to be friends with me and isnt ready for another guy. thenn like another month later (now) she has another boyfriend. which i know is a d-bag. but the thing is im confused. during the time she was single it started the other way. during breaks at work i would go do my own thing and SHE would come with me. so i didn't know if she was interested because at the same time she said she wasnt ready. so one day while she was stil single i asked her wat she would do if i kissed her and she said she didnt know. i tried but she refused so ijust kissed her on her cheek. so now she has a new boyfriend. and I KNOW she doesn't like him but she still has him as her boyfriend. and she even wears a ring that he gave her. she still ------ing flirts like hell with me and follows me around during break and stuff. she calls me during break to see where i am. so ive known this girl for like 6 months and she goes flirting with me while she has 2 boyfriends (that i know she never liked and doesnt like right now) and she wears a ------ing ring. so im pretty much over this bull---- and i just want to know what u guys think. i try to ask he seriously about if she likes me or not but she never tells me. we have a lot of fun together and stuff. but after all the flirting and laughing and folowing me around we have never gone out outside of work. she tells me she doesnt like younger guys...shes 18, im 17. i mean you can tell she is just in denial. she always says that im a junior not a senior..then i show her my senior id and she shuts up. i mean isnt it obvious she is just in denial she doesn't want to like me but shes? or is that just me thinking she does because i want to think that she does? rofl. anyway so yah now im over this ----. i think the only way to really find out if she likes me or not is to kiss her but wouldn't that be just messed up...i mean she wears a ring that her boyfriend gave her....yet shes always showin how she likes me and has shown this for a long ass time....

    wtf.


    through my experiences and my knowledge so far ive heard that you need to show indicators of interest but also you need to show indicators of disinterest. one i personally think sound good is that you ask her how old she is? then if she is younger than you, you tell her what a baby she is, and if shes older tell her shes too old. this puts the control into your hands and she feels as if she needs to prove herself to you.

    another one also is to never compliment her directly. dont say your beautiful blah blah blah, only later on once ur already goin out. but anyway try to focus on making HER the one thats trying to impress you. like for example.....if she 'flirts' with you...be like ah thank god my girlfriend isnt here (even if you dont have one) she would be pissed...shell be like...oh you have a girlfriend? than you say..why you askin eh? and smile

    idk thats what ive read
    but ive never tried it...plan on tryin it tonight actually with sum other chick.
     
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    diverse, just one time if shes flirting you and you see a chance, reach out and start kissing her. if she kisses you back, you know you're good to go. otherwise, start looking for someone else.
     
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    thx though i know i need to kiss her! its just wierd when she calls her boyfriend while were hanging out (<<<lol at that)


    yea well im already talkin to someone else..
    i started to actually like lay off her like a week ago...
    idk i still like her but i guess it finally got to me that ive done everything i couldve done and if she doesnt like me then the loss is on her so im movin on now (even though i still like her...i mean like movin on to meeting other chicks)...

    so yah!
     
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    if she calls her boyfriend while the two of you are hanging out, its likely that shes just trying to make you jealous. make a move or youll never know
     
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    Bro, same thing happened to me, just not at work. She said she liked me and would flirt a lot then all of a sudden she's got this boyfriend, etc. like you said. In the end, I realized I never really liked her for who she was and figured out that she didn't have a good personality. Maybe this girl is pretty and you like her but seriously, if she doesn't say she's interested then forget it. I thought after that chick tht I'd never have another chance in high school. Little did I know, I'm kinda figuring out that i think this girl in my economics class likes me. And i kinda like her too. So just because you like her and think shes amazing and stuff doesn't mean shes the one.I used to think that the past girl was my everything was everything i need and stuff. I was wrong, when I really thought about it, i didn't need her. TBH, I think you should just do your best in school, get into college, get a good paying job, then meet a nice chick. That way you won't really screw up your future, and you'll have the smarts about relationships. Now I'm not saying like forget that girl ya know, if you really like her there's not that much I can do. All I can say is think about it. If you can think of something major thats wrong, then its all wrong. There IS ALWAYS someone for someone, if you can tell by the way she's acting (which I could immediately) that she's not serious about you or anything and just going off having boyfriends every other day, its not worth it, and shes not worth it. Ask her again if she wants a serious relationship, if she says shes not ready, then go tell her two boyfriends that. They'll figure something out. She doesn't seem like the kind of girl I'd want to hang around either. If you have anymore questions and want help go ahead and post or pm me man, I'll help the best I can. The best advice I can give you know though is do what you know is right and what you NEED, not what you WANT.

    Peace.

    BTW if any of this helped you then I'm glad, 100% sure it won't though ;)
     
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    Indeed. I'll post my advances with her at the end of the week...although I doubt there will be any, I barely see her these days
     
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    I like this thread, so bump!
     
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    For the record, any mother that gets on the internet to ask how to control her kid doesn't need to have that child.

    Ask your friends; they know the situation better, and most people on here don't have the slightest clue about girls other than the ones they jerk off to.

    P.S.: "talked," not "conversed." Where the f*ck are you from, Star Trek?
     
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    It was merely an innocent example, a bit exaggerated, but still meant to prove a point. And yes, you could say I'm from Star Trek, I'll take that as an ...erm...compliment ?

    Anyway, the situation has gotten a bit odd. Every time we ride the bus on friday, she wants me to sit next to her. We've talked a whole lot more, and I've gotten to know her a little bit better. But,strangely, it's gotten to the point where I don't know if I have interest anymore. I sort of have interest, but am not very impressed now that I've conversed (yes, CONVERSED) with her (I love my stupid diction ... /sarcasm) . It could be more of the whole friend-type deal, but I'm beginning to think she likes me (not trying to sound conceited...) .

    Interesting dilemma ...
     

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