Ever had a feeling of fear of success ? I am! I'm really really scared... so much as to crying... my friends... everyone, I feel so inferior to all of them... They're all hard working people. I want to try something to distinguish myself from them, but it's like no matter what I can ever do, they can be better than me in just doing whatever I did in just ONE night or in shorter amount of time..... I try to tell myself get better, try harder, come on! ... but at the same time, I feel it's useless because I feel it's not something I can really excel at anyways... Lately it's been harder for me to study... All my friends are smarter than me and they all cream it all in my face when I make a mistake or when they can solve something faster... to many of you, you may get motivated to get better, but that's not me..... I'm really really weak.... When they make a mistake, I stay quiet, I don't want to destroy their confidence... >< weak huh? .... When I try something, i'm really scared that my friend will get better and that they'll laugh at me... ............. I don't want that. I know all of you will say "so?", "try, you never knows what happens"etc etc but I've been trying to tell myself that, but once the thought of my friends popping up, I lose all confidence..... I want to fix this ... but I... just.. cant...... seem ...to........... PLEASE HELP (or save) ME !! ;(
Whoa If your asking online people for help, thats pretty sad. you have a self-esteem issue obviously you just gotta learn not to care
I get the same problems with my friends. You really have to learn to compete with yourself and just laugh with your friends. I am a sophomore at high school. My best friend is a 3 sport athlete -football, wrestling, track- I am a fat computer nerd. He beats me at just about everything and I just learn to laugh. I am happy when I make a nice 3 point shot, even right after hem swishes a half court shot. Or when he benches 275 right after I bench 150. I am satisfied with myself because I know that I keep getting better. This is all you have to do man. Dont get down. The best thing you can do is to learn to laugh with your friends and not to compete. You will gain nothing out of it in the long term. Competing with yourself might sound lame, but it is the only way you will ever improve at what you do. Imitation gave some terrible and mean advice. Please do not listen to him. Edit : And Valence has it right, dont be ashamed to visit a school counslor or something. Just tell your friends you had to talk to him/her about a schedule problem or some b/s liek that. Someone p-rofessional to talk to is great. I have never done this before, but that is definetely a great idea.
woa dude your self esteem is way to low. I just got done with ball practice k, and im the oldest dude on the team and to say the best player on the team. im used to this because i've always mastered at baseball so whenever i play baseball i know im gonna kick ass at it so i dont worry. You need to find somthing that you kick ass at and your friends dont and rub it in their face and say "ha! ha! i can do this and you cant!. hope this helped! [I know it didnt look like it but i really did try here]
only if success some how ------s me over in one way or another... other than that, I'm all for success EDIT: for the record, my self esteem isn't too low, it's probably too high.
if all they do is rub it your face and laugh at you get new friends a counselor may help though or just find someone you feel comfortable talking to
wow I can actually say I was thinking this because I was about to post a topic like this and i have seen counselors but they dont help and I keep getting more medication but it doesnt help my friends drag me to social events and i just walk out and now they just stopped coming around so im online alot more even though online I dont have many friends due to me being offline for some months but now sitting here I start questioning whethere I should continue to live like whats the point anymore ? Im on 4 different medications but yet they dont seem to help
only 15 and yet they cant prescribe me anymore because im an adolocent* or whoever you want to to say a teenager
Dang man, well first off you cant rely on a internet social life because its not gonna last forever why not try and get back with the gang?
they gave up hope and I just gave up on everything I stopped going to school and I have a court date, for ditching school for like a whole month and really there is nothing left so why try when all you do is fail
They gave up hope on you is what your saying? Do your parents not force you to go to school or anything?
I Gave up im on this because really if Im not here Im sleeping I sleep most of the time that way i cant fail anyone at all, and My parents got tired of yelling and screaming at me they just gave up too, They some times will try to cheer me up but i just ignore them
