I have been dating this girl for over 5 month, I really loved her like no other. but then in the past few weeks she sorta changed towards and wouldn't return my calls and sometimes of not always didnt answer the phone, and tended to avoid goin out with me anymore I finally got a hold of her the other night and asked her wth is wrong with her? She said she can't go out with me because she she isn't my GF Iam like wth ?!?!! and what have we been doing for almost half a year She is like I don't want to have boyfriends ever! I asked why and she didn't want to tell me untill I finally got it out of her. She was in an abusive relationship with her ex bf. He used to fight alot with her and verbally abuse her. I kept talkin to her on the phone for 2 hours and I was ----ed up and all in tears and ----. I kept asking her to give me a chance and give herself one too, and try and she wont regret it, and I sweared that I will never ever leave her no matter what and how Iam not a possesive person because this is just not me. Almost 2 hours of trying to convince her and she said we can be only friends. But I tell her ok we'll be just friends I will be lying to myself because I really love her and I will never go out with another chick, but if we keep it just friends she might find the right guy though she says she never wants to have a BF and take off with him and I will be in a world of ----. So I told her I can't be just your friend because of that, and I really love and please just give me a chance... she said she would never change her mind but she will think about it and call me later. I told please don't call me again unless you change your mind. And know I havent slept or eaten since then Iam feeling terrible as if I was just hit by a train and feel like suicide... Have I done the right thing or should I just have setteled for being friends only? Please no sarcastic comments.
darn no post count huh .. o wellz ok .. two possible reasons for her doing this 1) she's really really scared that u'll hurt her 2) she using this as a convenient excuse to get you off her back first things first, when you say dating, you DID ask her to be your gf right? did you? you know, make things like official
Find the dude, that beat her, and kick his a$$...make her feel like you could protect her...>_>...if you need help call me, I hate abusers....>_>
1. Have you ever fought before?... if not, go find a punching bag and practice.. xD 2. If you decide the violent way, she may still not be happy..she had a violent relationship so she might not like any violence at all. 3. Also, if u go to fight him, make sure he doesnt have any buddies around xD
^^^ Fight? Sounds like something little kids would say. In this situation nor any situation fighting won't help out. The girl got out of an abusive relationship, do you think she would like to see her current boyfriend beat up her ex? Think. As for advice, just try to stay friends with her and make her feel confortable. After a while maybe she'll feel confortable with you and you can go out with her again.
1. Find a group of Mexicans 2. Tell the group of Mexicans that her Ex-Boyfriend said that he hated Mexicans 3. Beat up Ex Boyfriend Really, just wait a couple days and see if she'll calm down. It wouldnt really help if you committed suicide and she just went out with another guy. (she would probably feel even worse, seeing as she was the one that caused you to die)
How old are you? Something similar happened to me. Going out with that girl was the worst idea I've ever had in my life. She said she needed time and stuff, I waited 2 freaking years and she still gives hints that she wants to go out with me and stuff. I remember her mom told her she can't do that when I was going out with her. Seriously though, if you want to go out with her just stay friends with her. Just let it play out. Keep your options open. Never rely on just that one girl. Stuff happens and you'll eventually get over it and find someone else.
she probably thinks that u will do the same thing to her that her ex did to her. u should just be friends with her for now and let her come back to u. btw...suicide is stupid. u'll just kill yourself and then she'll feel so bad that she'll end up doin it too
if you want to show her something, show her how desperate you are, show her that you resorted to asking on the internet for help.
Just try and relax her, just talk about her and her ex, also make sure she feels secure all girls like to feel secure just be there for her really. ^_^ Oh and Suiside isn't an option, my brother did it, and it's got him no where apart from in a koffin, all that happend was made some people feel bad. Don't do anything stupid mate. B)
